The tendency to hold others up to our own standards is what stifles community before we really have a chance to experience it.
Perhaps you know someone who makes you feel as though their interest in you is conditional upon you making the choices they want and approve of? Maybe that is the only kind of people you know. I strive for something different - to show, by example, what authentic love actually is. This is what happens next:
Suffering is optional. To avoid suffering, you must be honest enough with yourself to make decisions which support the life you would like to create. Do you know what that is? Well, what actually makes you happy? Whatever that is - whatever makes you happy (this must not be another person but something you can do on your own), start thinking about it, ALL THE TIME. Thoughts become feelings and feelings become emotions, thus, the way to let go of emotional ties is to begin thinking about your life in a new way.
It takes a lot of honesty and a lot of work to discover what makes you truly happy. You must begin by identifying and acknowledging the illusions you’ve created – illusions that mimic happiness and contentment, leaving you empty, drained, even shameful, afraid and most definitely, overwhelmed. After that, you get to confront your willingness to create and perpetuate these false realities, which is going to point out exactly why you are so reluctant to take any responsibility for your experiences.
If you manage to come through that process with any motivation left to become self-aware, you may begin to navigate away from illusion towards a healthy expression of imagination.
When you expose negative belief systems you become more self-aware and may begin to replace these old systems with new methods of thinking which allow your mental energy to be invested in activities and experiences that support a life that truly makes you happy. The more this happens, the easier it will become to no longer deliberate over decisions, having learned to immediately respond to your best interests with confidence as an expression of authenticity.
The value of our past is in the created experience. We are all here for an experience and we are all doing the best we can. It’s on us, alone, to create the experience we desire.
Holding on to personal power is our great responsibility. The less we outsource* our validation to others the easier it becomes to create sustainable happiness. We will have learned that happiness is an ongoing experience of authenticity, which can only come from within.
Embrace the opportunity to learn. Always remain teachable. Realize each moment is a choice to become more self-aware or a choice to de-evolve.
We become self aware by our willingness to be honest with others and ourselves. Are you truly supporting yourself with the greatest currency of all - your time?
Don't judge yourself, but rejoice that in the asking you have become more mindful, a
bit more self aware and one step closer to integrating the intended lessons manifesting in your life as a result of the unique relationship between your will and the creative power of all life and experience.
What you spend time thinking about will manifest as your experience.of life. Are you ready? Lets write a good one,
*either by giving our personal power away or in attempting to control/dominate - both are expressions of how we outsource our need for validation. Awareness strips away the density of our physical experience by shifting our eyes away from the world without and refocusing on the experience we are able to create within.
This is how we begin to manifest.
To maintain this requires polarity - yin/yang. It means learning how to navigate between extremes, the ability to distinguish between your dreams/imagination, destiny/present moment and desires/what we think we want. And this should be done somehow without judging yourself for choices you have made, which were the best you were capable of making at the time.
The more authentic you wish to be, the more you must question your authenticity.
“Sing in me, Muse, and through me tell the story.” Homer,